Sunday, 19 June 2011

UK Sisterlocks & Natural Hair Event - 26 June 2011

This post is a merging of two posts by two UK based bloggers (must give credit where due!!). Thanks to Nai and the Natural Lounge for originally publicising this event. My original comments are italicised, everything else will have been summarised from their posts.

I'm thinking of grabbing a couple of my clients and friends and heading on down... however, I may flake out at the last minute because it'll be the first sort of natural/sisterlocks event that I will attend without my locks... that said _ I went to Royal Ascot this weekend and didn't feel awkward (maybe because I hid behind my hat???) - anyway we'll see.

The event is being organised by the team (Liz and Judy) at Locks Royale - now Liz is one of the first British Sisterlocks Consultants... if you have the Sisterlocks journals - you will find a photo of herself, Carol (Tassahai) and Marie (Cammalocks) from back in the day.  I have always admired Liz - she gave it to me straight when I asked her how much it would cost to get Sisterlocks whereas others were reluctant to give ball park figures over the phone. Bless!
I think it's a brilliant idea, and the only reason I've taken so long to talk about it is because I have been out of commission nursing my 2 yr old who went down with chicken pox (Man Down! Man Down!) He's perking back up now - so life can sort of return to normal. (This also explains my lack of posts re: the 30 day challenge!!! Sorry)


The Sisters Who Lock -  Annual Social Gathering
Date: Sunday 26th June
Time: 5pm - 10pm
Cost: £10 which includes a complimentary glass of wine or soft drink; – light refreshments will be on sale.
Location Welbourne Centre, Chestnut Road, London N17 9EU. (5 mins walk from Tottenham Hale Station)
Guest Speaker: Life and Relationship Coach Des OConnor. (7pm sharp)
Who Should go? Everyone is welcome: locked sistas (traditional or micros!!), naturals AND permies.
What else is on offer?  Well, for those of you who remember 'Adornment' (I do!!!) there will be a mini 'Adornment' style sale.  This basically means that there will be Culturally inspired designers exhibiting their jewellery, clothing, greeting cards, bags etc. Sisterlocks products will also be on sale and to top it off, there'll be a photographer on hand to take your photo (which will be available for same day purchase). How cool?

This will also be a good opportunity for anyone thinking about starting sisterlocks to see them in their abundance, ask questions and share the experience of other sisterlocks wearers.

For more details please visit their website: http://www.locksroyale.co.uk
or give them a call: Liz Joseph (07956 346 385) or Judy (07950 703 789)

For details of other upcoming UK based events , please head on over to The Natural Lounge where Angel has compiled a very good list.  (Make sure you subscribe to her blog to stay in the loop).



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Sunday, 5 June 2011

30 Day Challenge #5:

Things You Want to Say To an Ex....


That's so easy :)
"Thank You"

Thank you for every denigrating action, every humiliating reference, every negative word. Thank you for the way you completely crushed me, stepped on me, pushed me to the bottom and made me feel as though I was and had nothing of value to offer anyone -

because ... when you've reached the bottom - the only way is up. And had I not been completely broken, I would never have had the opportunity to rebuild, reinvent, repair and recreate - the stronger, smarter, confident woman who stands before you today.

Had I never met you and suffered under you - I would never have the sense of self I have now, I have such an understanding of my real self worth that I do not allow anyone to take me for granted. I demand respect wherever I am now - whereas before I would have let 'things slide'... or settled for less. Having met you - I know I deserve more. I AM worthy, no matter what anyone tries to say. And this is the message I take to all young women - to protect them from people like you in the hope that they can avoid the same pitfalls: poison dressed up as sugar... vinegar masquerading as wine.

Thank you for showing me everything that a partner shouldn't be, so that I was able to recognise the 'good stuff' when it came along, instead of mistakenly thinking that your 'crumbs' were morsels of 'goodness' I should be grateful to receive. Some people are abusers and users - thank you for showing me what that looks like so I can warn my sisters and daughters to be on the lookout.

Thank you for teaching me how to forgive, because I am not bitter nor do I hold any malice against you. I am glad I met you. I am thankful for the experience, all those years...  they made me who I am today and I like me very much now.

You tried to destroy me - yet here I stand on the other side laughing.. stronger than ever...  HAPPY and BLESSED.

This song meant so much to me on so many levels (literal and metaphoric) back in the day - so I'll just let British songstress Jamelia sing the rest ...go ahead girl, tell the people!


"Thank You"

[Verse 1:]
The fights, those nights - 
I tried to pretend it don't hurt
The way, I prayed
Someday that you would love me
Really, completely
Just how I wanted it to be
But no, so wrong!
Can't believe I stayed with you so long!

[B-Chorus:]
You hit, you spit, you split, ever-y bit of me, yeah
You stole, you broke, you're cold
You're such a joke to me, yeah

[Chorus:]
For every last bruise you gave me
For every time I sat in tears
For the million ways you hurt me
I just wanna tell you this
You broke my world, made me strong
Thank you
Messed up my dreams, made me strong
Thank you

[Verse 2:]
My head, near dead - Just the way you wanted it
My soul, stone cold - Cos I was under you're control 
So young, so dumb
Knew just how to make me succumb
But I understand
To make yourself feel like a man

[B-Chorus:]
You hit, you spit, you split, ever-y bit of me, yeah
You stole, you broke, you're cold - You're such a joke to me, yeah

[Chorus:]
For every last bruise you gave me
For every time I sat in tears
For the million ways you hurt me
I just wanna tell you this
You broke my world, made me strong
Thank you
Messed up my dreams, made me strong
Thank you

[Middle eight:]
You coulda had it all babe
It coulda been so right
I woulda given you everything
Morning through night
Yeah, you taught me some lessons
Those are my blessings
That won't happen again

Thank you

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30 Day Challenge #4:

Bullet Your Whole Day....
Alright - this post is going to be boring...  my life isn't THAT interesting... anyway here goes! (NB. I am skipping anything like 'brush teeth, have shower etc')


  • Get kids breakfast and ready for the day. 
  • Pick up clothes off the line. (Throw stones at the 5 foxes who think they own the garden).
  • Cart eldest kid off to Youth Group (Sunday School). - Yes, I should go too but I can't today because of point below.
  • Attend pottery making & painting class (with the younger kids) as part of friend's hen day activities.
  • Have Sunday Lunch with family (including daddy who is here in London on holiday).
  • Put younger kids down for their afternoon nap.
  • Revise for upcoming Anatomy & Physiology exam.
  • Fold laundry, do ironing, tidy up. 
  • Check over oldest child's homework.
  • Make sure oldest child's school shoes are polished (by HER not by me) and uniform is good to go. 
  • Make sure all relevant reports are ready (for work) and laptop is in the right bag.
  • Make sure all loctician tools are sterilised and stored - ready for this week's clients. 
  • Pray for God's guidance and providence for the upcoming week.
  • More revision: anterior and posterior muscles of the upper and lower leg.




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Friday, 3 June 2011

30 Day Challenge #3

A Book I Love

This was a tough one. I love books... loads and loads of them - which makes it very hard to choose just one for this.

I have decided to go with "A Thousand Splendid Suns" by Khaled Hossein (Amazon) : the book gave me an insight into the lives of women in Afhganistan. It is fiction but it is symbolic and representative. 

This story touched me because - having lived in the so-called 'Western world' all my life, I have never given much thought to the plight of women elsewhere. Apart from the (seemingly few) Muslim women who campaigned against wearing a hajib or full dress, I assumed the women were happy and well cared for. This book ripped the blinders from my eyes and showed me that women can be unhappy and abused no matter the location or religion.

I felt for the women... the 'plain Jane' who lost her father and after a happy childhood was served up years of sorrow and misery.  And the beautiful girl who thought she had the world at her fingertips but whose life took a twist that sent her down a bitter road resulting in her collision with the older (and wiser) 'Plain Jane'... who saved her.

The alliance these two women formed... in the face of cruelty and abuse... they had eachother - until one of them made the ultimate sacrifice. OH! What a story.

After I read this book I walked away feeling incredibly grateful for my life: warts and all. 
Woman - Arise!


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Thursday, 2 June 2011

30 Day Challenge #2:

Something I feel strongly about

Marriage & Fidelity

I've read the other challenger posts and I feel strongly about some of those things too - child abuse and animal cruelty for example - but since  they've already been written about - I'll talk about this topic. 

I feel strongly about the sanctity of marriage. If you do not or cannot commit to being completely faithful to your husband/wife - forsaking all others and cleaving to him/her only - then please don't bother. It really annoys me when I see or hear a married party (most often a man I'm afraid), glibly discussing his 'outside woman' or external conquests without a care in the world - and when called out on it, the answer is something along the lines of : "Well, my wife knows I always come home to her". Really now?

Do I want to lie down next to someone who has spent the afternoon sniffing around behind every bamsie in the village? I don't care how discreet.  If you want to 'have your cake and eat it too' don't get married. I don't condone it in unmarried relationships either but to me it just feels WORSE when you're married. 

I do understand that people are human and therefore fallible. I understand that you CAN get married with the best intentions in the world, with no thoughts of adultery and 'situations' can conspire against you to cause you to 'slip up'. I aint talking about that. 

I am specifically referring to people who get married, knowing full well they will 'step out' as frequently as they wish - with whomever they wish - as the opportunity presents itself. And some of these same individuals would crap themselves if they thought their spouses would find out : ready to call you all the worse names and tell you to 'mind your own business' if they think you'll uncover their secret to their spouse...

I'm just saying: if you know... that you cannot be satisfied with the woman/man who wants to marry you - don't marry her/him.  Let them be happy with someone else. 

Getting married and not taking it seriously is just making a mockery of the whole thing. And God will not be mocked.

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Wednesday, 1 June 2011

30 Day Challenge #1:

1. Five Ways to Win Your Heart

I'm going to answer this question from a romantic perspective (*grin*) These are things HRH has done to win and keep my heart over the years.


  1. Bring me flowers. I love them. They can be freshly cut or you can bring me a whole plant. It can be as simple as a single rose or calla lily or as elaborate as a mixed bunch of gerberas, leafy fronds and asiatic lilies. Flowers lift me. HRH doesn't like to make ostensibly 'romantic' gestures. The way he is - he just likes to move to his own beat, and is always moaning about 'who said this is the right thing to do?' so when he brings me flowers - it's definitely a heart warming moment and a treasured occasion
  2.  Breakfast (in bed - *huge grin*). I'm not just talking about the 'expected' occasions like say 'Valentine's Day' or my birthday. The ones that really stand out for me are the times when I've least expected it. Like when I was recovering after the birth of our son (C-section delivery) and he faithfully brought me breakfast in bed EVERY morning for almost 8 weeks. How sweet was that? And when I was bed-bound for almost 2 months in 2007 after suffering an injury to my foot, again, he would bring me breakfast every morning before he went to work, even if I was too drugged up to notice or thank him for it. I would wake up to a mug of hot steaming tea and and a pile of toasted of sandwiches... every morning.
  3. Be Confident. A healthy dose of self belief adds some genuine swagger to your stroll. I'm not talking about arrogance, or over-confidence or conceitedness but it's a real 'switch on' to see someone 'own a room', to be fully aware of what he (or she of course) can bring to this 'party' in a manner that shows they are not prepared for anyone to try to take that away from them (in some derogatroy, or humilitating or self-denigrating way). Know yourself. Know whom God called you to be, and don't let any MAN (or woman) try to tell you different.
  4. Stand Up. Take responsibility for your family. There is nothing as heart-warming as watching a father (biological or adopted) 'own' his kids. HRH became a different man when he became a father. I saw him giggle like a child and rough house with them like a pile of puppies. I've seen him step and change the foulest nappies and mop up kiddie vomit from the walls without a single complaint. I've seen him whisk away away a whingey babe and settle them in their beds like he was the Pied Piper... He has been involved in every possible way, from choosing names, to selecting nurseries, to taking the day off to nurse a sick child when mummy had to be at work that day. Mothers have a special role in raising children - but so do daddies and when both work in unison it can be a really beautiful thing. So dads - don't leave it all to mummy, carve out your own niche and make it your thing.
  5. BE HONEST. Don't hide stuff from me. Just bring the truth, straight up. If I can't count on you to warn me when I'm about to make a mistake - who can I count on? Have my back but don't just be reactive, be engaging and encouraging. As my partner we are in this together - and while you don't run my life, my decisions will ultimately affect OUR life so show an interest :) two heads are (most often) better than one lol.

Over to you Yahvinah *grin*

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