Thursday, 2 June 2011

30 Day Challenge #2:

Something I feel strongly about

Marriage & Fidelity

I've read the other challenger posts and I feel strongly about some of those things too - child abuse and animal cruelty for example - but since  they've already been written about - I'll talk about this topic. 

I feel strongly about the sanctity of marriage. If you do not or cannot commit to being completely faithful to your husband/wife - forsaking all others and cleaving to him/her only - then please don't bother. It really annoys me when I see or hear a married party (most often a man I'm afraid), glibly discussing his 'outside woman' or external conquests without a care in the world - and when called out on it, the answer is something along the lines of : "Well, my wife knows I always come home to her". Really now?

Do I want to lie down next to someone who has spent the afternoon sniffing around behind every bamsie in the village? I don't care how discreet.  If you want to 'have your cake and eat it too' don't get married. I don't condone it in unmarried relationships either but to me it just feels WORSE when you're married. 

I do understand that people are human and therefore fallible. I understand that you CAN get married with the best intentions in the world, with no thoughts of adultery and 'situations' can conspire against you to cause you to 'slip up'. I aint talking about that. 

I am specifically referring to people who get married, knowing full well they will 'step out' as frequently as they wish - with whomever they wish - as the opportunity presents itself. And some of these same individuals would crap themselves if they thought their spouses would find out : ready to call you all the worse names and tell you to 'mind your own business' if they think you'll uncover their secret to their spouse...

I'm just saying: if you know... that you cannot be satisfied with the woman/man who wants to marry you - don't marry her/him.  Let them be happy with someone else. 

Getting married and not taking it seriously is just making a mockery of the whole thing. And God will not be mocked.

WELCOME TO THE TAPESTRY OF ME.... These are my words and this is my journey, from 'there to hair'! My life, the lessons learned in and through love and loves ones; and my hair affairs.


msfullroller said...

I hear Sis! The killing part is when they and like you said it usually is the man, will get on his high morality horse with just the mention of his partner doing the same thing.

Unknown said...

oooh! This is a good one! I totally agree, if they want to be out of the relationship, then they should end it, not drag the other person along through the dirt! Grrrr!


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