Sunday, 5 June 2011

30 Day Challenge #5:

Things You Want to Say To an Ex....


That's so easy :)
"Thank You"

Thank you for every denigrating action, every humiliating reference, every negative word. Thank you for the way you completely crushed me, stepped on me, pushed me to the bottom and made me feel as though I was and had nothing of value to offer anyone -

because ... when you've reached the bottom - the only way is up. And had I not been completely broken, I would never have had the opportunity to rebuild, reinvent, repair and recreate - the stronger, smarter, confident woman who stands before you today.

Had I never met you and suffered under you - I would never have the sense of self I have now, I have such an understanding of my real self worth that I do not allow anyone to take me for granted. I demand respect wherever I am now - whereas before I would have let 'things slide'... or settled for less. Having met you - I know I deserve more. I AM worthy, no matter what anyone tries to say. And this is the message I take to all young women - to protect them from people like you in the hope that they can avoid the same pitfalls: poison dressed up as sugar... vinegar masquerading as wine.

Thank you for showing me everything that a partner shouldn't be, so that I was able to recognise the 'good stuff' when it came along, instead of mistakenly thinking that your 'crumbs' were morsels of 'goodness' I should be grateful to receive. Some people are abusers and users - thank you for showing me what that looks like so I can warn my sisters and daughters to be on the lookout.

Thank you for teaching me how to forgive, because I am not bitter nor do I hold any malice against you. I am glad I met you. I am thankful for the experience, all those years...  they made me who I am today and I like me very much now.

You tried to destroy me - yet here I stand on the other side laughing.. stronger than ever...  HAPPY and BLESSED.

This song meant so much to me on so many levels (literal and metaphoric) back in the day - so I'll just let British songstress Jamelia sing the rest ...go ahead girl, tell the people!


"Thank You"

[Verse 1:]
The fights, those nights - 
I tried to pretend it don't hurt
The way, I prayed
Someday that you would love me
Really, completely
Just how I wanted it to be
But no, so wrong!
Can't believe I stayed with you so long!

[B-Chorus:]
You hit, you spit, you split, ever-y bit of me, yeah
You stole, you broke, you're cold
You're such a joke to me, yeah

[Chorus:]
For every last bruise you gave me
For every time I sat in tears
For the million ways you hurt me
I just wanna tell you this
You broke my world, made me strong
Thank you
Messed up my dreams, made me strong
Thank you

[Verse 2:]
My head, near dead - Just the way you wanted it
My soul, stone cold - Cos I was under you're control 
So young, so dumb
Knew just how to make me succumb
But I understand
To make yourself feel like a man

[B-Chorus:]
You hit, you spit, you split, ever-y bit of me, yeah
You stole, you broke, you're cold - You're such a joke to me, yeah

[Chorus:]
For every last bruise you gave me
For every time I sat in tears
For the million ways you hurt me
I just wanna tell you this
You broke my world, made me strong
Thank you
Messed up my dreams, made me strong
Thank you

[Middle eight:]
You coulda had it all babe
It coulda been so right
I woulda given you everything
Morning through night
Yeah, you taught me some lessons
Those are my blessings
That won't happen again

Thank you

WELCOME TO THE TAPESTRY OF ME.... These are my words and this is my journey, from 'there to hair'! My life, the lessons learned in and through love and loves ones; and my hair affairs. http://lovelifelocks.blogspot.com

3 comments:

Ni said...

Very, very nice and well spoken. Thank you. Loved the artist; will definitely have to look for more of her works.

msfullroller said...

Lovin this!!

The Woman Inside said...

Great post! I know a few men who should listen to that song, I am passing it along to a few girlfriends.

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