Tuesday, 19 July 2011

Tek Yuh Hand Out Ma Child Head!

Yes, I'm back.. and I'm angry (lol)

First things first - what happened to me? (LOL)

The day after I published my last post (in which I mentioned I had gone awol because my son had chicken pox for 2 weeks) - my baby daughter manifested the same disease... chicken pox must have been in season because a few of my friend's children got it too and they hadn't seen us in aaaaaaaaaages and their kids don't go to the same nurseries either! 

So.. little Miss was sick AND I resigned from work - so at the moment I am a full time SAHM (stay at home mum) or rather I am a full time Sisterlocks 'Consultant' and loctician. I'll fill you guys in on all of that later - I just really wanna get this off my chest (which used to be the name of my blog "Off My Chest", lol)

On with the show...

Little Miss has a rather loose curl pattern, (y'all have seen the pics), cornrows and plaits work themselves loose in about 24 hours or so. I have learned that trying to 'contain' her hair in intricate designs or neat rows of braids is a complete waste of time - because they will look awful the next day (sometimes the next morning) no matter what we do and I am not going to put holding gel or wax in her hair for the sake of a style. Most days she wears two, three or four afro puffs and everyone is happy. Or almost everyone...

On more than a few occasions when I've sent Paz (the baby) to nursery with her hair done one way... her daddy or I will pick her up in the evening with her hair done ANOTHER way... At first this was amusing.. and once or twice (when I'd been run ragged nursing her brother back to health) it was even helpful ... but things have gotten out of hand now.

Back when it was still amusing, I asked who was doing her hair, the lone AfroCaribbean worker in the school nervously raised her hand. This is the worker that my daughter ADORES, every morning she will squeal and run to this lady and laugh and giggle... and Paz even goes so far as to blow kisses to this woman when she is leaving for the day. (Yes I am rolling my eyes). 

How could I chastise her? Plus she seemed genuinely frightened (maybe she thought I was going to report her to OFSTED or something...) so I just said: "Thank you, I was busy with so didn't have time to do it" - to which the Worker replied: "Oh it's no trouble, I LOVE doing her hair - its so soft and curly" literally gushing with enthusiasm... warning bells should have gone off in my head... I should have nipped it in the bud then, it would have saved me from ranting about now... but I thought it was harmless.

Over the next month I found myself frequently having to loosen hair bands that had been wrapped so tight that those tiny white hair bumps were appearing around Paz' hairline (Grrrrr...) I started to wonder how much hair was being tugged out during these daily hair REstyling sessions...I started to get annoyed BUT the Worker was never there when I arrived to take Baby home, nor when I dropped her off in the mornings...

Last night I made a batch of Hair Milk and Detangling Spray samples for cosmetic assessment. Before mailing  them to my testers I decided to run a quality check (using my daughters of course - I aint got no hair! lol).  I spent maybe half an hour, defluffling (removing lint and debris), detangling and twisting baby girl's hair. 

This morning I took down the back section (she had an awesome twist-out but I put it into two puffs), and I left the top front section as a cute curly twisted fringe. Even my older daughter commented on how cute she looked as we toddled off to school...

Fast forward to this evening.  I collect Little Miss and as I look at her I feel sick. "What happened to your fringe?"

Not only was the fringe untwisted... it was non-existent. Baby Girl's hair had been combed through (so much for the defined remnants of the twist out) and scraped into two tight puffs) - well la-di-da.  I was absolutely livid. In fact, I still am. 

"Mrs Worker, 
Do you have any idea the time and effort it took to put those twists in in the first place? I only did that last night.. why the blazes would you comb them out today? They weren't even frizzy yet? Did she fall into a vat of water? Did some kid wipe his spaghetti-os in her hair? What happened? All that effort for nothing - 
What a blooming waste of my time.Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? "

Here's what I think you should do from now on (in measured Bajan dialect) : "Keep yuh so and so hands outta my child head before I drive a kick in yuh."

Seriously people - what would you do? .... Even Paz wants to know

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Mrs Mac's Corner... said...

But ah bright she bright! ah fi har pickney?? (in my best Jamaican dialect!) lol ah hell no! If you do come across her again maybe politely say, I know you love doing her hair but thanks for your help previously but I got it under control now. With a smile, then if she dont tek heed blatantly say I would prefer it if you do not style my daughters hair when I send her to nursery and if she still does not listen you may have to resort to canerow!! Good luck! x

Nai said...

MRSSSS BBBBBB! yuh iz bak!!!

WELLLLL! .... Welll!!!

Lissen me good! from day dot I am going to draw a big fat line across my girls forehead ... NO! presumptious!

Is soft curly hair you want? Goh mek yuh own! cha!

So much more I could say but feel I am already showing my ignorance (ahem) on the net, not a good look! LOL!
Not keen on people hand in childrens head, SNM?

Welcome back! x

anthia-ofo said...

Tell her straight up. Please stop doing her hair. It isnt good for her hair to be manipulated too much(as in her hair was done last nite and you did it again today). The hair dr says less is more.You've done your bit,but leave her head alone now. Her dad & I dont like her going to nursery with one style and coming home with another.

BTW is this the baby??? Nooooo!!

Kittylocks said...

I agree with OFO I would tell her like it is and only resort to threats if she continued but it would really get on my nerves. She is really pretty.

CaribSun said...

If you don't see her in the mornings or afternoons, then you should leave her a note. Be kind but firm in the note.

Unknown said...

Yeah I would err toward being firm with her. I wouldn't want her pulling the babies' hair out pulling it too tight, she might want to pull her kids hair out, but you don't want your baby having traction alopecia, that hair takes a LONG time to grow back at the temples... And it could go toward traumatising your baby when you are doing her hair down the line.

Bajan Lily said...

:) Thanks guys.
Anthia - yes this is the 'baby'... feels like yesterday but she is 15 months old already!!!!

I will try to catch the Worker, failing that I will leave a 'firm' but polite note. No traumatisation or traction alopecia for Bajan Baby !!!

ps Nai and Mac - y'all had me creasing up. I love it when the islanders 'brukk out' lol

V @ Locks-N-Motion said...

I think you handled it well, better than me. I would've have been pissed!

Baby's girls her is just lovely!

I'm sure she gets the point now, lol

The Woman Inside said...

Great advice so far, and I hope you get the chance to see her (the worker) soon.

Your daughter is soo sweet wow in a blink she will be a woman!!!

Titus 2 Thandi said...

What everyone else said-who I could understand ;-) Please update us on the hair saga once you've communicated with the hair molester.

Anonymous said...

The whole hair thing with Paz and nursery is hilarious, but as a mother I find it very disturbing. The woman needs to stop. Paz is not her baby and she's not a doll. All that time doing her hair is stopping her from playing and having fun. And Paz's hair is none of her business!

Nai said...

My (translated) sentiments EXACTLY!

Nubian1 said...

Pretty in pink Bajan Baby looks vexed too!

Here is to peace and hair grease!! lol

Afrolady said...

Ya'll are FUNNY!!! OK, seriously, I would make an effort to get there when she is there, even if I had to get off work early. I would wholeheartedly apologize for letting this go on so long, thank her for her help in the past. Then tell her (IN NO UNCERTAIN TERMS) that I DO NOT want her re-doing my child's hair.

I would also let her boss know that this situation has gone too far, has made you uncomfortable and you wouldn't want to have to remove your child from the nursery if this sort of thing continues.

My daughter had a head full of hair when she was little (there was more hair than it was HER). I constantly had "offers" to do her hair, which I politely and FIRMLY declined. Girl, people are truly CRAZY!!

JUST Euphoria said...

WOW!! the nerve of some people, now I wasn't raised in the hood but somehow the hood always comes out of me & I would have let her have it down the front & back. First of all that's nasty you don't know where her hands or the comb she's putting in your baby's head been, & second if she's combing your baby's head then who's looking after lil' ray ray & nem!! girl put your clown suit on before your baby be bald headed!!


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