Tuesday, 23 September 2014

Someone Rubbed My Bald Head....

Good morning ladies,

As you already know - I am bald (I live with Alopecia Universalis - no pity please). This actually happened to me yesterday and I shared it on my timeline because I was in shock and - somewhat inexplicably- felt a bit dirty.

"This is my face right now... Feeling dazed and confused ... And violated....




Walking home from my kids' school, stranger approaches me smiling.
As he passes me he rubs my (bald) head and continues walking away.... 

I'm in shock...."
You can follow the post of facebook by clicking here

When I told my hubby about it later that day, he read some of the comments below the pic and stated that he felt people were blowing it out of proportion - particular those who classified the act as 'assault'.

I explained that technically - if someone touches you without your consent it can be classified as such (minor assault, sexual assault, aggravated assault etc) but it made me wonder whether men see things differently to women.

I didn't mention it on my original post but the person who rubbed my head was a avg height caucasian male late 30s to 40s with a leather jacket. Could have been slightly inebriated - I don't know - his face lit up when he saw me, he smiled and rubbed my head, did a lil two step and bopped away down the road.  So not particularly sinister in appearance but not 100% kosher either... (the lil bop and giggles made me wonder if he was drunk/high).

Anyway - given the above - what do you guys think? Minor assault? Creepy Stranger? Breach of personal space? Nothing to get upset about?

 And how would you have reacted?

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Wednesday, 10 September 2014

Alopecia Awareness month



As young girls, we are often taught that our hair is our crowning glory... imagine how it must feel to walk around 'without your crown' - particularly when it wasn't your choice....

People stare and or offer pitying glances - wondering whether you are sick... or just mad. "Why did you cut off all your hair?"
"You looked much better when it was long"
"It's a good thing you've got a good head shape - are you gonna grow it back?"
"Try drinking/eating/taking <insert name of remedy here> ..."
"Try rubbing <insert name of popular hair oil or tonic here> on it..."

Alopecia is an AUTO-IMMUNE disease. There are several forms : ALOPCIA AREATA (which refers to patches of baldness), ALOPECIA TOTALIS (which means no hair on the scalp) and ALOPECIA UNIVERSALIS (which means no hair at all anywhere on the body).

NB only TRACTION ALOPECIA is caused by poor hair care practices such as tight braiding etc. With time and tlc this hair can often be recovered. For the autoimmune cases of alopecia there is currently NO KNOWN CURE.

While Alopecia may not be as life threatening as cancer, it can be just as emotionally draining and heartbreaking.

Please help us raise awareness and hope as we search for a cure.

#alopeciaAwarenessMonth


Find out more at  http://www.alopeciaonline.org.uk/



















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Wednesday, 4 June 2014

Graduation Day

Hey Everyone,

My 16 yr old just graduated and I'm feeling pretty pleased. She was the head girl of her school and gave a really inspiring 'passing out' speech - so so proud of her. PLUS she did it all with Sisterlocks.

Not everyone was happy when I locked her up at age 12/13 - they thought she'd face extra hardship at school (ethnic minority, female, locks) and yet she did everything anyone else would and was voted Form Captain more than once and eventually became head girl.

Just wanted to share that... :)







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Tuesday, 27 May 2014

Notes from Cambridge - Lesson 7

Life got in the way. But I really want to be true to my word and finish the series of posts entitled 'Notes from Cambridge University: Lessons learned from the Women I met there"

To sum up the stories so far:

1) Be everything you want to be (Have no regrets) - Nadine Drummond 
2) LIVE your life & make the most of every opportunity - Ainka Alison G
3) Never give up on your dreams - Pam Dusu
4) Have Faith & Integrity (Stand for something!) - Afua Kudom
5) Dance like noone's watching - Judy-Ann Edwards-Rosti 
6) know your worth/let no one take you for a fool - Andrea Henry



Lesson 7:
" every fairy princess needs a little fairy dust and a wand. "
~ Krista Farrell

Krista hails from the twin islands of Trinidad and Tobago and studied medicine at Cambridge, regularly achieving 1st class honours in her exams while keeping up with her love of creative dance (and soca). 

Krista taught me that smart women don't have to be serious all the time, switched on all the time, planning ahead all the time. Sometimes, smart girls just wanna dress up, don a pair of gossamer wings and imagine they're in a place of incredibly beauty and light. 

So many conversations overheard between Krista and Izzie Clarkley: ended with "you could sprinkle some fairy dust on dat u know" (as if that would fix everything!) and she always greeted her with "Izzie, where's your wand, gyal?" Krista reminded me that amidst exams and papers and work and internships, was a little girl who needed to play- and that little girl was not just Izzie :) 

Izzie thanks you Krista for buying her first  fairy doll and I thank you for reminding me not to take life so seriously - to remember to break out that fairy dust and sprinkle some glitter on the (often far too bleak) world. 



Happy honeymoon gyal- I hope Sam has plenty of fairy dust for you xxx

Wednesday, 9 April 2014

Semi Permanent Makeup (Eyebrow Tattoo) Update

Eyebrow update (as requested). 






Pic above is the original comparison between my hand-drawn eyebrows and when immediately after the tattoo (slight swelling and redness).

Happy Christmas pic - Eyebrows were about 6 weeks old

Pic above shows the semi-permanent eyebrows after 4 months - when I'm going out I tend to darken them a bit but generally this is my everyday look







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Tuesday, 8 April 2014

Special Moment facilitated by Sisterlocks


"We are all connected"

I see my clients as my 'daughters' (younger), sisters (same age) and mothers (older) - depending on their age and disposition :)
This morning's client was one of my 'mothers'. As I started working on her locs, we talked about a recent funeral and family reunion and she asked where my people were from.

When she found out that I was from Peckham, she said "I used to know a Bajan family who lived in Peckham... both parents were from Barbados, they lived on Kirkwood Road and the dad was called ... "

"VINCENT!" we both cried in unison.
"THAT'S MY DAD! I giggled (honestly, how old am I ????)

What followed was a trip down memory lane. She knew everyone I had grown up with, each family in our little Caribbean community down in SE London. She knew my godfather and godmother, my aunties and my cousins and EVERYBODY. Man! What a trip.

Imagine that!
- To have known my parents and worked with them before they moved back to Barbados.
- To have met up with them (and even picked them up from my old flat) when my parents have visited on their annual trips back to London...
- To have played with and watched over me as a child at Saturday school,
- To be just as familiar with my 'people' as I but never knowing that it was ME standing behind her head and working her locs all this time!

What a privilege to be able to touch the head of someone my parents held in such high regard! You know I had to call my daddy straight away!

The child that would have sat on her knee being ministered to, now ministering to her in a different way. I am feeling pretty blown away at the moment.

#preciousMoments #notjustaHairStylist #SisterlocksSisterhood #allConnected

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Tuesday, 1 April 2014

Almocado Naturals - back on etsy

Almocado Naturals is back on Etsy. 

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Friday, 14 March 2014

Notes from Cambridge University .... Lesson 6

Notes from Cambridge Day 6.
(For a recap of previous days please scroll through my statuses or read the blog posts here http://www.lovelifelocs.com/2014/03/notes-from-cambridge-university-lesson-5.html).

Day 6: Know your worth (or let no man/woman take you for a fool)

Andrea Henry - not only a fellow student at New Hall (women's ) college but a fellow Barbados scholar, fellow Commonwealth scholar, fellow Bajan, fellow QC student and most importantly, fellow St Philippian! BFF! I could write a novel about our escapades...Lol

Anyway, let me not digress.
Andrea does something I call "the triple blink". Like me, she possesses a giving nature. Like me, She will go all out for those she cares about. When you're that generous (and young/naive) people will always try to take advantage - to take more from you than they ever intend to give. However, Andrea was better than I was because she knew how to say No.

Where I might have given someone a 'pass' and let them get away with never returning my fav CD, DVD or jacket - Andrea would smile and be in your face smiling until it was returned.

Whereas I would often allow people to mash my corns or run roughshod over my feelings just to keep the peace - Andrea never let anyone treat her with less respect than she believed she deserved - and her self- belief was STRONG!

By hanging out with her and watching her handle certain situations I shed layers of gullible naïveté and became as demanding of a certain level of treatment as she (and Nadine Drummond) did.

If you ever meet Andrea you'd think she was a cherub. But behind that smile is wisdom. There is much going on between those ears - don't be fooled by the smile. I learned to smile and nod while people speak AT you like you're an idiot - before dropping morsels of wisdom that destroy their misconceptions. "Oh. You went to Cambridge? But you're doing hair..."
Oh yes, that's my choice but as we say in Barbados - they didn't find me behind a cow. Plenty going on between my ears- I just don't wanna overwhelm you with my awesomeness.

#stillWatersRunDeep #YouOnlySeeWhatIChooseToShowYou
#IAmSmartIamImportantIamWorthy








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Tuesday, 11 March 2014

Notes from Cambridge University .... Lesson 5

After a short break - I am resuming my 'Lentish' focus on the Lessons I learned from the women I met while at Cambridge University. 

A recap so far: 
1) Be everything you want to be (Have no regrets) - Nadine Drummond
2) Carpe Diem (LIVE life & make the most of every opportunity) - Ainka Alison G
3) Never give up on your dreams - Pam Dusu
4) Have Faith & Integrity Afua Kudom

5) Dance like noone's watchingJudy-Ann Edwards-Rosti

Judy-Ann was another island girl (Jamaica again!) and she was like a big sister to me: smart beautiful and WISE. 






What I learned from Judy, was "BE YOURSELF" and
  "DONT BE AFRAID TO SHOW WHO YOU ARE". 

Y'all can imagine what it's like to be one of (was it 80 black undergrads at the time? ), sometimes I felt this unspoken pressure to present myself with 'less black' personal characteristics so as not to offend or alienate my non-Black counterparts... to tone down some of the mannerisms and loudness so as not to stick out so much.... 

but Judy showed me that it was OK to be CARIBBEAN

IT was OK to LOVE SOCA... 

It was OK to brukkout to some bashment by Mr Vegas or Chakademus and Pliers... 


She used her love of music and talent on the turntables to bring Allison Hinds, Destra GarciaMachel Montano and Krosfyah into the heart of a historically anglo-saxon establishment AND WE ALL LOVED IT

Wolfson College never had so much fun!!! 

Black, White, Indian, Chinese - all the same on that dancefloor.... I look back and remember the smiling faces, winding waists, rolling bumpers - all the same.... and it was OK.

Thanks Judy-Ann.... still love you you know... and thanks for babysitting IZZIE!!!! xxxx


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Friday, 7 March 2014

Notes from Cambridge University... Lesson 4


Day 4 of lessons from 'Cambridge' 

What I've shared so far...
1) Be everything you want to be - Nadine Drummond
2) Carpe Diem - Ainka Alison G
3) Never give up on your dreams - Pam Dusu

And today: 
4) Have Faith & Integrity - Afua Kudom




Afua demonstrated that high intellect/ intelligence and the belief in a single omnipotent omnipresent God are not incompatible. She was the personification of Matthew 5:16. Her faith and love were so tangible you just knew when she walked into a room - because her halo came with her 

She taught me that believing/having faith is not weakness or stupidity and God will always look after His own. (And thank you for looking after little Izzie and giving her a bright and wholesome standard to emulate) 

#ITooAmCambridge #InspirationalWomen


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Wednesday, 5 March 2014

Notes from Cambridge University ... Lesson 3

Day 3 of My Lessons from Cambridge grads starts again with a recap:

1) Be everything you ever wanted to be - Nadine Drummond

2) Live for today and make the most of every opportunity - Ainka Alison G

And now for the third tip, courtesy of fellow graduate Pam Dusu who studied Law and is of Ghanaian descent. 



Pam is and has always been one of the most organised women I know. Her ability to think clearly and plan the next steps to achieve her goals is unparalleled.

On aside - her family showed me just how much parents can love their children as evidenced in the sacrifices her parents made to ensure that both their children had the best educational foundation possible alongside a firm rooting in their own cultural identity.

At one point it looked as though Pam's dreams had been derailed. Years passed and even I have to admit I began to lose faith - but not Pam. She believed in her destiny and in the face of so many closed doors, year after year, she refused to stop knocking, she DID NOT GIVE UP and eventually those doors had no choice but to give way.  She is now LIVING her dream. (YAY!)

One phrase to sum up Pam/ the lesson I learned?

NEVER EVER GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAMS. No matter how long, how hard, how many obstacles or how many licks you've taken. NEVER give up on your dreams because if you believe it you can achieve it.


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Sunday, 2 March 2014

Notes from Cambridge --- Lesson 2

Day 2: so yesterday I remembered the one overriding thing I learned from fellow Cambridge graduate Nadine Drummond ie "Be everything you ever wanted to be/Live life without regrets"



Today I remember Ainka Alison G, born in Trinidad, she definitely has a
party spirit -and I don't mean that in a bad way. I mean that she has the ability to see the bright side everytime and refuses to take on stress and negativity. Too busy having fun and embracing life to be miserable! 




See what I mean? She studied Geography at Cambridge and she taught me how to be the manifestation of CARPE DIEM.

One phrase for Ainka? It would be "Live!" Carpe Dium -  Make the most of today. Embrace every experience and if life gives you lemons ask for tequila and salt!"








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Saturday, 1 March 2014

Notes from Cambridge University...

Recently a good friend of mine shared this post and I was surprised at the emotive (and often negative) responses it provoked. 

So for the next 10 days and maybe for the remainder of lent: I am going to share ONE THING that summarises my encounters with Oxbridge graduates.

I will not be ashamed or be made to feel like a sellout or conversely, a beggar.... I respect the sacrifices that were made (in both recent and distant history) so I could sit in those classes and walk through those halls. And I appreciate how those experiences (good and bad) shaped me into who I am now.

So, I'll start with Nadine Drummond, fellow island girl (Jamaica stand up!) and South Londoner, studied Law at Cambridge. Taught me "to Be everything I want to be" and live life without regrets.





Now working for Al-Jazeera and living in Doha! Living her dream!!

And if you'd like to see the original photo story that got us thinking - here it is: 

http://www.buzzfeed.com/alisonvingiano/21-black-harvard-students-share-their-experiences-through-a




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Thursday, 23 January 2014

Owning My Look

What a day!
It started with a visit to the Opticians, where I learned that I need to wear 'sunglasses' when. I go outside since I have no eyelashes to help protect my eyes from uv-ray damage #howWonderful #livingWithAlopecia 

Then I got called into my son's school because he had been coughing up his lungs... "Could I bring his medicine from home please" #mummyTheNurse #whatifIdidntworkfromhome?

No sooner had I sorted that out than the nursery phoned with baby girl screaming in the background having seemingly dislocated her knee... Which warranted a trip to the GP to have her checked over #mummyTheAmbulance #mummyTheCuddleGiver #kissesmakeitbetter.

And finally, feeling frazzled and discouraged, I sat at a clinic awaiting my own appointment, thinking about all the things I couldn't get done today while dealing with all these medical appts and kiddie emergencies when this flamboyant gentleman came up to me and says: 

"OMG! Who's your hair stylist? You look amazing. It's such a statement look: I love it!"

#suddenlyItsAllGood #lifesNotSoBad #thankyouJesus
#happyHappyJoyJoy #Backinthegame #MummytheBoss 

That man made my day! Lol 


-- 

"Feel Better. Be WELL" 
____________________________________
Annette Clark Headley M.A. Cantab CNHC


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