Friday, 14 March 2014

Notes from Cambridge University .... Lesson 6

Notes from Cambridge Day 6.
(For a recap of previous days please scroll through my statuses or read the blog posts here http://www.lovelifelocs.com/2014/03/notes-from-cambridge-university-lesson-5.html).

Day 6: Know your worth (or let no man/woman take you for a fool)

Andrea Henry - not only a fellow student at New Hall (women's ) college but a fellow Barbados scholar, fellow Commonwealth scholar, fellow Bajan, fellow QC student and most importantly, fellow St Philippian! BFF! I could write a novel about our escapades...Lol

Anyway, let me not digress.
Andrea does something I call "the triple blink". Like me, she possesses a giving nature. Like me, She will go all out for those she cares about. When you're that generous (and young/naive) people will always try to take advantage - to take more from you than they ever intend to give. However, Andrea was better than I was because she knew how to say No.

Where I might have given someone a 'pass' and let them get away with never returning my fav CD, DVD or jacket - Andrea would smile and be in your face smiling until it was returned.

Whereas I would often allow people to mash my corns or run roughshod over my feelings just to keep the peace - Andrea never let anyone treat her with less respect than she believed she deserved - and her self- belief was STRONG!

By hanging out with her and watching her handle certain situations I shed layers of gullible naïveté and became as demanding of a certain level of treatment as she (and Nadine Drummond) did.

If you ever meet Andrea you'd think she was a cherub. But behind that smile is wisdom. There is much going on between those ears - don't be fooled by the smile. I learned to smile and nod while people speak AT you like you're an idiot - before dropping morsels of wisdom that destroy their misconceptions. "Oh. You went to Cambridge? But you're doing hair..."
Oh yes, that's my choice but as we say in Barbados - they didn't find me behind a cow. Plenty going on between my ears- I just don't wanna overwhelm you with my awesomeness.

#stillWatersRunDeep #YouOnlySeeWhatIChooseToShowYou
#IAmSmartIamImportantIamWorthy








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Tuesday, 11 March 2014

Notes from Cambridge University .... Lesson 5

After a short break - I am resuming my 'Lentish' focus on the Lessons I learned from the women I met while at Cambridge University. 

A recap so far: 
1) Be everything you want to be (Have no regrets) - Nadine Drummond
2) Carpe Diem (LIVE life & make the most of every opportunity) - Ainka Alison G
3) Never give up on your dreams - Pam Dusu
4) Have Faith & Integrity Afua Kudom

5) Dance like noone's watchingJudy-Ann Edwards-Rosti

Judy-Ann was another island girl (Jamaica again!) and she was like a big sister to me: smart beautiful and WISE. 






What I learned from Judy, was "BE YOURSELF" and
  "DONT BE AFRAID TO SHOW WHO YOU ARE". 

Y'all can imagine what it's like to be one of (was it 80 black undergrads at the time? ), sometimes I felt this unspoken pressure to present myself with 'less black' personal characteristics so as not to offend or alienate my non-Black counterparts... to tone down some of the mannerisms and loudness so as not to stick out so much.... 

but Judy showed me that it was OK to be CARIBBEAN

IT was OK to LOVE SOCA... 

It was OK to brukkout to some bashment by Mr Vegas or Chakademus and Pliers... 


She used her love of music and talent on the turntables to bring Allison Hinds, Destra GarciaMachel Montano and Krosfyah into the heart of a historically anglo-saxon establishment AND WE ALL LOVED IT

Wolfson College never had so much fun!!! 

Black, White, Indian, Chinese - all the same on that dancefloor.... I look back and remember the smiling faces, winding waists, rolling bumpers - all the same.... and it was OK.

Thanks Judy-Ann.... still love you you know... and thanks for babysitting IZZIE!!!! xxxx


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Friday, 7 March 2014

Notes from Cambridge University... Lesson 4


Day 4 of lessons from 'Cambridge' 

What I've shared so far...
1) Be everything you want to be - Nadine Drummond
2) Carpe Diem - Ainka Alison G
3) Never give up on your dreams - Pam Dusu

And today: 
4) Have Faith & Integrity - Afua Kudom




Afua demonstrated that high intellect/ intelligence and the belief in a single omnipotent omnipresent God are not incompatible. She was the personification of Matthew 5:16. Her faith and love were so tangible you just knew when she walked into a room - because her halo came with her 

She taught me that believing/having faith is not weakness or stupidity and God will always look after His own. (And thank you for looking after little Izzie and giving her a bright and wholesome standard to emulate) 

#ITooAmCambridge #InspirationalWomen


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Wednesday, 5 March 2014

Notes from Cambridge University ... Lesson 3

Day 3 of My Lessons from Cambridge grads starts again with a recap:

1) Be everything you ever wanted to be - Nadine Drummond

2) Live for today and make the most of every opportunity - Ainka Alison G

And now for the third tip, courtesy of fellow graduate Pam Dusu who studied Law and is of Ghanaian descent. 



Pam is and has always been one of the most organised women I know. Her ability to think clearly and plan the next steps to achieve her goals is unparalleled.

On aside - her family showed me just how much parents can love their children as evidenced in the sacrifices her parents made to ensure that both their children had the best educational foundation possible alongside a firm rooting in their own cultural identity.

At one point it looked as though Pam's dreams had been derailed. Years passed and even I have to admit I began to lose faith - but not Pam. She believed in her destiny and in the face of so many closed doors, year after year, she refused to stop knocking, she DID NOT GIVE UP and eventually those doors had no choice but to give way.  She is now LIVING her dream. (YAY!)

One phrase to sum up Pam/ the lesson I learned?

NEVER EVER GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAMS. No matter how long, how hard, how many obstacles or how many licks you've taken. NEVER give up on your dreams because if you believe it you can achieve it.


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Sunday, 2 March 2014

Notes from Cambridge --- Lesson 2

Day 2: so yesterday I remembered the one overriding thing I learned from fellow Cambridge graduate Nadine Drummond ie "Be everything you ever wanted to be/Live life without regrets"



Today I remember Ainka Alison G, born in Trinidad, she definitely has a
party spirit -and I don't mean that in a bad way. I mean that she has the ability to see the bright side everytime and refuses to take on stress and negativity. Too busy having fun and embracing life to be miserable! 




See what I mean? She studied Geography at Cambridge and she taught me how to be the manifestation of CARPE DIEM.

One phrase for Ainka? It would be "Live!" Carpe Dium -  Make the most of today. Embrace every experience and if life gives you lemons ask for tequila and salt!"








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Saturday, 1 March 2014

Notes from Cambridge University...

Recently a good friend of mine shared this post and I was surprised at the emotive (and often negative) responses it provoked. 

So for the next 10 days and maybe for the remainder of lent: I am going to share ONE THING that summarises my encounters with Oxbridge graduates.

I will not be ashamed or be made to feel like a sellout or conversely, a beggar.... I respect the sacrifices that were made (in both recent and distant history) so I could sit in those classes and walk through those halls. And I appreciate how those experiences (good and bad) shaped me into who I am now.

So, I'll start with Nadine Drummond, fellow island girl (Jamaica stand up!) and South Londoner, studied Law at Cambridge. Taught me "to Be everything I want to be" and live life without regrets.





Now working for Al-Jazeera and living in Doha! Living her dream!!

And if you'd like to see the original photo story that got us thinking - here it is: 

http://www.buzzfeed.com/alisonvingiano/21-black-harvard-students-share-their-experiences-through-a




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