Notes from Cambridge Day 6.
(For a recap of previous days please scroll through my statuses or read the blog posts here http://www.lovelifelocs.com/2014/03/notes-from-cambridge-university-lesson-5.html).
Day 6: Know your worth (or let no man/woman take you for a fool)
Andrea Henry - not only a fellow student at New Hall (women's ) college but a fellow Barbados scholar, fellow Commonwealth scholar, fellow Bajan, fellow QC student and most importantly, fellow St Philippian! BFF! I could write a novel about our escapades...Lol
Anyway, let me not digress.
Andrea does something I call "the triple blink". Like me, she possesses a giving nature. Like me, She will go all out for those she cares about. When you're that generous (and young/naive) people will always try to take advantage - to take more from you than they ever intend to give. However, Andrea was better than I was because she knew how to say No.
Where I might have given someone a 'pass' and let them get away with never returning my fav CD, DVD or jacket - Andrea would smile and be in your face smiling until it was returned.
Whereas I would often allow people to mash my corns or run roughshod over my feelings just to keep the peace - Andrea never let anyone treat her with less respect than she believed she deserved - and her self- belief was STRONG!
By hanging out with her and watching her handle certain situations I shed layers of gullible naïveté and became as demanding of a certain level of treatment as she (and Nadine Drummond) did.
If you ever meet Andrea you'd think she was a cherub. But behind that smile is wisdom. There is much going on between those ears - don't be fooled by the smile. I learned to smile and nod while people speak AT you like you're an idiot - before dropping morsels of wisdom that destroy their misconceptions. "Oh. You went to Cambridge? But you're doing hair..."
Oh yes, that's my choice but as we say in Barbados - they didn't find me behind a cow. Plenty going on between my ears- I just don't wanna overwhelm you with my awesomeness.
WELCOME TO THE TAPESTRY OF ME....
These are my words and this is my journey, from 'there to hair'!
My life, the lessons learned in and through love and loves ones; and my hair affairs.